August 26, 2012

So I was wishing @flawsophy for his birthday...

Flawsophy: By the way, I have 100 published posts in flawsophy. Of course, Evil Twin has crossed 100 a long time back.

Gtoosphere: Cool. Even my blog crossed 100 sometime back. I think it should count as sort of an achievement… for holding on to a hobby that long.

Flawsophy: yeah it is.

Gtoosphere: It's a bigger achievement than birthdays :)

Flawsophy: Anything other than dying is a bigger achievement than birthdays...

Gtoosphere: That is a good standard to have. So what is the rule to wish NRIs for their birthdays? It is midnight here but it is still yesterday for you and hence not your birthday yet.

Flawsophy: :)

Gtoosphere: No... I am asking because some people are very particular about being the first to wish or wishing someone exactly at midnight. I am just wondering, what their policy for NRI birthdays would be. Do they wish them at midnight IST or midnight for the other person, whatever the time zone is?

Flawsophy: A girl would make sure there are at least three occasions... one India, one US... and one formal dinner in the evening. I was once about to wish someone dot on midnight (India time) but a Korean friend of mine came and asked for something. So I was like, six minutes late and in the meantime, another friend called and she was so mad at me for not being the first!

Gtoosphere: hehe :p

Flawsophy: ok, there may be a difference between 00:00 hours and 00:06 but for me it is 14:30 and 14:36!

Gtoosphere: yeah. What is six minutes after a heavy lunch? Pf…  

Flawsophy: adhe gaa… even different hours have different meanings… don’t they?

Gtoosphere: If you insist on being specific to the hour, then you should be wished in IST because you were born in IST.

Flawsophy: Exactly... this takes us back to reviving a dying horoscope system. That’s the only time horoscopes make sense to me

Gtoosphere: You mean a dying horoscope system adjusted for daylight saving? ;)

Flawsophy: chee chee

Gtoosphere: I am not kidding… these horoscope apps account for daylight saving as well!

Flawsophy: Horoscope has the assumption of a consistent time-zone which implies "travel across time-zone at your own risk"

Gtoosphere: ISRO launched the moon mission only after making sure it is launched at the right “muhurtham”. I mean, seriously? We're sending a vessel to the effing moon and you’re consulting a horoscope that considers the moon to be a planet?

Flawsophy: hehe... sometimes, we forget birthdays altogether. The anger over missing a birthday is something people take very seriously.
Watch this space for more adventures of Awkward Man
and his forever alone side kick, Captain Friend-zone.

Gtoosphere: I probably hold the record for forgetting the maximum number of birthdays in a year. If you forget someone’s birthday, you can’t call them anytime soon. You have to give some cool off time, maybe 3 or 4 weeks, so that the forgotten birthday doesn’t come into the next conversation.

Flawsophy: Yes, the Birthday Cool Off time.

Gtoosphere: I think an appropriate Birthday Cool Off time is 2 to 3 weeks.

Flawsophy: Two to three weeks is too much. Who remembers their birthday after a week? One week is enough.

Gtoosphere: I don’t know, I wouldn’t risk only one week of Birthday Cool Off time. I once forgot to wish someone for her birthday and she got very angry

Flawsophy: The anger over missing a birthday is something people take very personally

Gtoosphere: yeah, and when I called her a week later to apologize.. I ended up giving a very Seinfeld-esque speech on "What is the big deal with birthdays? All you did was “not die” and you want to celebrate that? Doesn't all the medical science and technological progress mean anything anymore? That we human beings as a species are collectively celebrating the miracle of ‘not dying’?" Of course, I had to apologize for the apology (which was also quite Seinfeld-esque). 

Flawsophy: hehe...

Gtoosphere: Another time, a friend invited me for lunch, so I went to her place. Her mom made awesome lunch, fried rice, payasam, etc. I had a pleasant with her chat for a couple of hours after lunch left in the evening. Two days later, I realized that it was her birthday that day, I went to her house, ate a lot of food and didn't wish her

Flawsophy: chee chee.. that is horrible! 

Gtoosphere: I know, but in my defense, I didn't know it was her birthday. It was the proto-Facebook era.

Flawsophy: No, there are times you can get away with that excuse. But not this time. 

Gtoosphere: So you think it is a non-bailable Birthday Offence. 

Flawsophy: yes, that is what it is -- a non-bailable Birthday Offence! You are sentenced to an invitation ban for 6 months and a fine of an expensive gift plus an apology. 

Gtoosphere: Abbo... "non-bailable birthday offence"... People these days are celebrating half-birthdays… like birthdays aren't bad enough!
Flawsophy: the whole concept sounds voodoo

Gtoosphere: Oh… you're turning 24 and a half today! Who gives a shit???
Flawsophy: hehe… I once wrote a post on birthdays and some girl commented saying that her boyfriend declared the month as a birthday month which implies a C in the high school English I exam for coming up with a ridiculous self-contradictory term.

Gtoosphere: Even worse are the couples who celebrate month-anniversaries

Flawsophy: What the hell is a month-anniversary? These people have no respect for time!

Gtoosphere: The word anniversary itself is closely related to “annual” which means once a year! The word exists because ancient Greek have arrived at a consensus that a relationship should last at least for a year before the couple can start annoying other people and here we are in the 21st century celebrating month-anniversaries. People have no standards anymore.

Flawsophy: Yeah, people are inventing new holidays whenever they feel like smooching!

Gtoosphere: If you want an excuse to celebrate, look to traditional lifestyle. Our ancestors have invented enough reasons.

Flawsophy: yeah celebrate Maasa Siva Raatri. It is always around the corner :p

Boorelu and Pulihyaara
Gtoosphere: Bamma celebrates ‘Maargasira Lakshmivaram’ or something. How cool is that? Just like that, for four days a month, she makes Boorelu and Pulihyaara and no one complains. They didn’t even bother to give it a legitimate name. They just call it “The Thursday of so-and-so month”… Holidays can’t get more arbitrary than that!

Flawsophy: We have a whole system of made-up excuses and arbitrary holiday system thanks to India’s beautiful appetite and a fundamental hatred for work. And they don’t have oxymoronic names like half-birthdays and month-anniversaries.

Gtoosphere: hehe… that is the advantage of belonging to a 5000 year old civilization. The holidays tend to accumulate ;)

Flawsophy: Yeah, we are losing a lot of good things in a way because they are slightly inconvenient.

Gtoosphere: The beauty about our festivals is that they have more to do with our love for food and almost nothing to do with our beliefs. Did you ever pray on Sankranti? No, we just wear clothes and eat. Did you ever go to a temple on Diwali? No, we were busy drying our crackers on the terrace and test firing them. The kitchens are busier than the temples. Our festivals are broad enough to allow even atheists to enjoy them :)

Flawsophy: Yeah, shallow urban people have started wearing branded clothes for short term gains and are completely ruining a beautiful, devious, evil, and well-oiled system for excuse making and binge eating.

Gtoosphere: hehe… also, gone are the days when “Neighbours are doing Satyanarayana Vratam” is a legitimate excuse.

Flawsophy: Was that ever a legitimate excuse.

Gtoosphere: I bet someone would have used it at some time in history. It is 12:40 AM now, should I wish you now or later in the afternoon.

Flawsophy: Just wish and be done with it. Indaakati ninchi dobbuthunnav nee yankamma :p


  1. Awesome post. You think this is possible with youngsters alone? No the risk and associated irritation is more with the aged ones. Your loyalties are judged based on the time you wished them on either birthday or marriage day. For any reason if you miss out.............." ee vedhavalu unna lekapoyina okate, naaku asalu pillale leranukuntaa... naa asthi lo assalu vataa ivvanu" it goes like that...ha ha .

  2. ha ha ...

    "laywer gaaru, adentii ... maa tammudiki 4 acres ekkuva raasaarentii ... nanna gaaru ... "

    "baabu ... meeru 1974 lo aayana puttina rojuu marchipoyaaru ta ... mee tammudu aa edadhi gift koodaa pampinchaadu ... adhi aayanaki poye varaku gurtosthoo vundedhi ... "

    "1974 aaa ??? budhhundaalandiii ... appudu aayanaki kaneesam 50 ellu vachhi vuntaayi ... "

    "idigo ... meeku ilaanti attitude valle 4 acres dobbaayi ... "

    "ammani ... pilla chimatapakaayi of india !!! chepthaaanu vaadi sangathi ... "

  3. nice post, a sense of dejavu ....on his birthday, a person i know was writing something each time someone calls to wish him ...when i inquired abt to know that he was making a lit of ppl who love him the most based on when they called in descending order ...."krishna mamayyaki nenu ante chala istham, venkat bawa inka call kooda cheyyaledhu.....swathi pinni rank 4...."...ohh my mad anukunna nenu.... :P

  4. sashi - what patience man, just to get wished :)

  5. @ sashi: nenu ninnu late ga wish chesey mundhu ee post choosi untey .. oka varam agey dhanni kada ra babooo.....

  6. I agree that the importance of a birthday and age are inversely proportional. FWIW, one of my uncles thinks that we are getting closer and closer in age, as he remains in 42 and everyone else is growing up. :) No reminding him of pesky birthdays.

    May be there is some algorithm to calculate when 'forgetting to wish on a birthday' would turn out to be actually a gift for someone old enough.

    (I will wait at least a week just to be safe with Flawsophy though)

  7. Birthday ayithey nenu artham cheskuney prayatnam chesthanu.... but...inkaa reverse lo undey dads kuda unnaru... monna maku telisina oka telugu ayina (Eppudu Pakkaney unna Pakistan ki kuda vellaledhu) valla avida tho antunaru... :"ee sari mana pillaliddaru nannu Father's Day ki kaneesam phone lo kuda wish cheyyaledhu" ani ... lol

  8. Very nice and hilarious... However, I believe that our traditions and festivals bring together the people, improve our beliefs and give self-satisfaction for having this beautiful life :)

  9. hehe.. untaaru andi babu ilaa scoreboard maintain chese candidates :)

  10. hehe... aithe fathers day ki mothers day ki kooda Cool Off period ivvaala?

  11. oka roju aagi.. America lo ivaley kada nanna antey saripothundhemo.. :)

  12. This is really hilarious!! :D And ur telling me this was a real chat/conversation?!! :D

  13. Thank you :) ...

    And yes, it was a real chat, slightly edited to fit into the narrative.


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